Five Manners Everyone Should Know - Back Porch Bickerin'

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Calli and Talia come up with their list of top five Southern manners in this episode of Back Porch Bickerin'...er...Back Porch Polite Discussion.
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Legitness67 9 日 前
I got told by someone from Pennsylvania than I’m too polite to people
Melissa Wittman
Melissa Wittman 17 日 前
I always say "yes ma'am" and "yes sir". I am a teacher and I require my students to use these as well. One year and student's father told me, "That's just a southern thing". I replied that it's a "respectful thing"! Thank you!
Joanna W
Joanna W 22 日 前
Always write a thank you note. Add this to the list: when someone mails you a card or thank you note, let them know you received it. (Loved the monogrammed cards hanging in the wreath, they are perfect for thank you notes.) 😊
Dan Holmes
Dan Holmes 23 日 前
look, there is whole nother set of rules for black Friday.
Bruce Evans
Bruce Evans 25 日 前
Oh, baloney. You two are just congratulating yourselves. I was born in Michigan and I have lived my entire life in the north and I do ALL those things. They are not specific to the South. You may have seen some Yankees who don't follow them but I can tell you that I have seen Southern gentlemen and ladies who don't follow them either. Oh, and by the way, nobody here in the North gives a heck about that war or your "heritage."
nora robinson
nora robinson 25 日 前
I was born in California I was raised to do all of those things and more. I also taught my daughter the same still to this day we put Miss in front of woman’s name. Hey Miss Linda. Always but my Memaw is from Georgia
N Duke
N Duke 26 日 前
You always hold the door open, I was taught to do that. But I graduated high school last year, no one held the door open for anyone, they push it open and walk right in, and you had to run to catch it so you wouldn't get locked out of the school.
Erin Stanger
Erin Stanger 26 日 前
I have a bad habit of forgetting to write thank you note.
Erin Stanger
Erin Stanger 26 日 前
I'm from Arkansas so I can say that all these manners go out the window during football season. 😂
Salty 24112
Salty 24112 ヶ月 前
I might only be 18, but now kids are starting to say yes sir to me and I hate it, if feels so weird
Michael Whisman
Michael Whisman ヶ月 前
Wrong!! Respect is earned. Not a right.
Michael Whisman
Michael Whisman ヶ月 前
What kind of names are those???How embarrassing. Leave the south and people will assume that you are a Clampett.
Emery Nuner
Emery Nuner ヶ月 前
Southerners are polite but don’t think that’ll keep em’ from talkin’ behind your back
Barb B
Barb B ヶ月 前
I am 58. I sat yes ma’am and sir to adults older and younger
John Taylor
John Taylor ヶ月 前
I ALWAYS hold the door for others but it can leave you stuck when all of the sudden twenty or so people suddenly decide that they want to leave at the same time and there you are holding the door like some kinda idiot while your wife is standing off to the side trying not to laugh at you.
Stacy Stalstone
Stacy Stalstone ヶ月 前
I agree with all of the examples in this video. I would add that it is the hallmark of excellent manners to never criticize the manners of another. I was once placed in the awkward position of having to (privately) explain this once. Thank you for sharing with us.
NebulaM57 ヶ月 前
Opening the car door for my wife and closing after she's seated. Our pastor challenged us to do this years and years ago and I've done it ever since. And it's amazing how many guys don't do this simple gentlemanly act. It really sticks out to me when I see it. It's like noticing someone not wearing pants or something. Very obvious to me. Come on guys!! Man up!
Jennie Kreiner
Jennie Kreiner ヶ月 前
I have had kids run in to me or step on my foot (I was a sub teacher) if they didn't say anything I would say. " The words you are looking for is excuse me sorry"
amazingag_ studios
They sound like my mom😂
Kai Mitchell
Kai Mitchell ヶ月 前
I don’t know how but I rarely say you’re welcome, at least on the fly. I habitually say “No problem”.
cheer 4 life
cheer 4 life ヶ月 前
Whether you know them or not if you are talking to a server or grocery store worker you treat them as a friend and talk to them.
Rob Baker
Rob Baker ヶ月 前
I will give a verbal thank you but I'm not sending thank you notes. That's an absolutely ridiculous expectation.
ZombieMommy ヶ月 前
Upper Midwesterner here: We do a lot of the same things. Check out the video titled "Midwestern Nice". Will also show up to shovel your walk, bring ya some stuff from the garden, canned goods... and say Hi to your mom for me! ❤️
Stephanie Torres
Stephanie Torres ヶ月 前
How about when talking about some one you don't like, or encountering someone you don't like, smile and say "bless her heart" Completely a southern thing!!
Allison Neal
Allison Neal ヶ月 前
The side of the road/sidewalk thing got to me... 15 years ago, my then-boyfriend and I were walking hand-in-hand on the sidewalk down The Strip in Knoxville when he insisted that I be on the inside. Not 5 minutes later a drunk driver lost control, jumped the curb, and ran him over, then crashing into a tree. Due to an outrageously fortunate set of circumstances, my then-boyfriend only had a minor concussion and slight muscular damage to his left arm. I just remember seeing him lying motionless and losing my mind...
Moments formoms
Moments formoms ヶ月 前
I do the emhm one,yep,& yeah a lot. I say all kinds of variations of it- you’re welcome,of course,no problem,etc. I’m usually polite but like at work when everything is so rushed I just want them to leave already.
Glen Pitts
Glen Pitts ヶ月 前
I love yall guys & gals. Keep up the AWESOME videos!
Karl Parsons
Karl Parsons ヶ月 前
A basic rule to start - Have simple respect for others. If for some reason they do not show it in return then all bets are off!!
Daniel Cain
Daniel Cain ヶ月 前
I held a door open for a young woman one day at the post office. She gave me a dirty look and said she didn't need a man to hold a door for her. Instead of turning her head to look where she was going she kept looking at me, and walked straight into the divider between the doors. Ain't feminism grand.
Jim Mikell
Jim Mikell ヶ月 前
Speaking to someone you are passing....they act as though you are not a part of thier reallity..So I say..LOUDLY..Or not..it costs nothing to be civil
Lori Hooper
Lori Hooper ヶ月 前
I also taught my three sons all of the above.
Lori Hooper
Lori Hooper ヶ月 前
Personally I just think that means you were raised right!
nikonmother ヶ月 前
Southerners send thank you notes when they receive a thank you note. Esp. when it was a sympathy card, they send a thank you note. We were punished if we didnt say Yes Ma'am and No sir.
Prince Turk
Prince Turk ヶ月 前
Southern people may have better manners but Yankees are way more intelligent I'm from NJ living in NC n found it out the hard way
Becky Vickers
Becky Vickers ヶ月 前
My Dad always walked on the side toward the road. He was born 1897. His explanation for walking on the outside next to the road was common into the early 70's when it somehow got lost. It was a matter of protection and respect. A woman on the outer side of the walk was up for grabs and a man who let her walk there was not well thought of. It said he didn't respect her. Even walking alone she should stay to the inside of the walk. Two women, however, could walk there side by side. The feminist or womens lib movement I think kind of ruined that. I'm glad to hear it is still practiced by some decent men.
Ivana Weekes
Ivana Weekes ヶ月 前
Unless you have something **really contagious**
Tyler Calender
Tyler Calender ヶ月 前
threesom anyone
Malcolm Clay
Malcolm Clay ヶ月 前
When you say Thank You and the other person says No problem. No problem?!?!? Oh, we have a problem with your rude self!
alissa crowe
alissa crowe ヶ月 前
All these everyone should be doing. I was raised on all these except the yes sir and ma'am
alissa crowe
alissa crowe ヶ月 前
Amd i live in Cali
Madeline Elizabeth
I made it a point to say loud Pleases and Thank Yous to servers at restaurants because I hate when people are dicks to wait staff. I grew up in the south but not with southern parents so I have some of these by default. But the Yeah thing I don't get.
Elizabeth milam
Elizabeth milam ヶ月 前
I’m from the Midwest and do all of these
Gracie Speer
Gracie Speer ヶ月 前
My mama always taught me that if someone asks for assistance you clear your schedule to help them; especially if it's an elderly person and you always go into it with a smile.
Deni Bascom
Deni Bascom ヶ月 前
Even yes sir/ma'am to my children and grandchildren to teach them. So I say it to everyone.
My old teachers keep telling me you can call me by my first name I just tell them sorry my mom raised me to be respectful
Lynette Rogers
Lynette Rogers ヶ月 前
I thought it was American to say yeah or ummm to reply to thankyou. In Canada the normal response is your welcome. And saying mamm to a women in Canada is rude. You are calling her very old.
Charles Adams
Charles Adams ヶ月 前
I know this is a year old, but this is now pertinent when we all finally go back to work. And this is from a 60+-year-old southerner. for all those not southerners - just behave the way the servers and employees at Chick-a- Filet treat you.
mothafraker ヶ月 前
The sidewalk thing originally came out of wagons and buggies splashing mud and water, and also from people in upstairs apartments or hotel rooms throwing garbage and.... bio waste out of their windows. It's secondary purpose is "Back off boys. She's spoken for!"
Cheryl Flowers
Cheryl Flowers ヶ月 前
I cannot Stand it when someone says "NO Problem".....
adrian turner
adrian turner ヶ月 前
Happy to say I'm classified as a Yankee but I follow all these rules with the bless you added for ALL sneezes.
Nick Brock
Nick Brock ヶ月 前
i was in manhattan and i held the door open when leaving a restaurant and the lady behind me thought i was trying to pickpocket her as she walked by 😂😂 i explained that im just southern and she understood lol
Elwood Blues
Elwood Blues ヶ月 前
I'm a lifelong California who married a lifelong Texan. RSVP, it's just like you say, you commit to being there. But for me at least, I'm happy to do what you ask, but if I then hear "please?", I think they're impatient, and they feel the need to say "please" to get me to do what they ask. Oh well . . .
Zani Zone
Zani Zone ヶ月 前
I once had one of those "polite standoffs" with a girl I took on date, at the restaurant door. I broke it off with "age before beauty" and let her go first... She realized only when we were in my car on the way back to her house...
gettin' there Janice
as a mom with a stroller often it is really annoying when people hold open the door but take up space in the door way especially when there is a handcap button and my kids fight over who gets to push the button so it is like I just broke a promise to my kid when you held the door open so if there is a button go with the button. I am so not southern. and I don't have most of these manners and some maybe I should to some degree but in other ways I am fine with my northwest manners. they aren't quite as fun. but we have our own culture with our own values they are not as universally true and so it might be a little hard to lable them. but I don't really think I am rude I think your standard is too high. like I don't invite guests and expect them to bring something it was not their choice to be invited I can not expect anything from them. no one rsvps and that can be annoying if you need an accurate head count but we throw less parties hosting isn't as big of a deal. and not everything needs a thank you. you can over do it but you should say it often. yes sir and yes maam are usually used sarcasticly so it is better to avoid them but I do say miss or sir dispite the age. I know I wierded out a highschool student riding the bus when I called him sir cause he dropped his wallet. I don't think it is wrong to hold people to a different standard who came from a different culture as long as you are not letting people do overtly wrong criminal level stuff. but acknowledging that in different parts of the country and different parts of the world you fallow different rules and I am sure there are things that are a curtesy and a way of life in the south that are not acceptable in other cultures. I mean I would be horribly offended if anyone brought alcohol into my home without asking permission. and not permission at the door but permission before they left there house. but alcohol is a common hostess gift in many circles. I don't host and I am glad I don't host but I would be super akward for me to have to manage gifts the second a person walk through the door I would find that rude. one time I when I was in a relationship I was invited to come to friends of my fiancee and I really didn't know them and i bagged them not to invite me on a day I worked and I was super stressed really stressed about it and I watched kids after school for there mom and she normally was home around 530 but sometimes five but not that night it was more like 7 and I was really hungery and super emberrsed and ashamed that I was late and I people waited on me and to me that is the worst being late is so so rude. even a tiny bit but this level was just bearly forgivable it was horrible. and i got there and there was no food. I thought did they already clean up. why can I not even smell it. apparently they hadn't even started cooking. I was so confussed and disorianted one of the first things i said was where is the food. not like where is my food I need you to feed me. but moe of a puzzled where is the food they said they were having speghetti which in my head is a food that takes an hour to cook and feels the house with aromas and dinner should have been over an hour ago like why don't I smell speghetti aparently they cook speghetti differently than me. and I offended them horriably and alignated that group of friends for the guy I was with. which I am fine with cause if they scare off that easy who needs them and it was 100 percent not ok for my now ex to demand that I attend a dinner ingagement against my will on a work night when I work past when dinner is it would have been much better to do a after church lunch thing way less pressure. but even if I hadn't screwed up that meal it wouldn't still be friends. I don't like social rules i don't know or understand. especially things that aren't actually taught or said clearly or when people say different than what they actually mean oh that is so frustrating trying to figure what they are actually saying no say what you mean and mean what you say even if it is nt super poliet though you can be poliet liing is the worst and code is stupid
Ivan Walters
Ivan Walters 2 ヶ月 前
Ok there should never be an awkward pause of who goes first at the door. It's simple - if the two people are different genders, the woman always goes first. if they're the same gender - the older person goes first
STEVE R 2 ヶ月 前
Of course you can politely say something disparaging if you always say 'Bless their heart' afterwards.
Jacob Collier
Jacob Collier 2 ヶ月 前
These are all ways we can learn then teach others how to get along in this world, very important especially in these times.
Cheap Shot
Cheap Shot 2 ヶ月 前
MO farmers all time, yup. That is a universal word. It means you’re welcome, hello, and it can also mean you’re a dumb ass... yup😉
Orange Blossom
Orange Blossom 2 ヶ月 前
Hm. A _truly_ polite person wouldn’t talk behind your back when you’re no there. Js...
A R 2 ヶ月 前
I believe the "Region of Origin" for the Golden Rule may be the Southern region being part if the Bible Belt... Leviticus 19:18 Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself: I am the Lord. Matthew 7:12 Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets. Luke 6:31 And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise. P.S. Talking about it later behind their backs lowers you to the level of people without good manners..gossip. Wrong is wrong.
nathan madden
nathan madden 2 ヶ月 前
if someone asks me to do something its usually "no problem" i never go mmhmm, thats rude
Nola Salazar,Barnes
Nola Salazar,Barnes 2 ヶ月 前
I’m 39 years old and still say yes or no ma’am/sir. I can’t help it, it’s how I was raised and it just feels natural. I’ll probably say it the rest of my life. It’s all a matter of respect. 🤷🏻‍♀️
Lea Speer
Lea Speer 2 ヶ月 前
I wondered when a BTH would drop. (Bless Their Heart)
Scarlett O'Hara
Scarlett O'Hara 2 ヶ月 前
Good manners never go out of style. I still appreciate a guy being gentlemanly. There is nothing feminine about feminists. They're just a bunch of angry women. Great video, ladies.
Chris Harper
Chris Harper 2 ヶ月 前
Waiting for everyone to sit down and have prayer of thanks before eating. Oh, and never planning a family meal during the football game.
Dee 2 ヶ月 前
Ma’am/sir, please and thank had to be on the list, of course. You better show respect. I wasn’t raised in a barn. 😀Holding the door, of course. Holding the door for the lady who did not thank you, I knew exactly what you were going to say because I do the same, “You’re welcome”.
Mama Patch
Mama Patch 2 ヶ月 前
Lol the unstated stand off at the door... yea I'm there 3rd person who walks up late & just walks thru baahaaaa... I do the same thing at 4way stops lol
Mama Patch
Mama Patch 2 ヶ月 前
But I do say thank you's & hold doors
vintagetitanic26 2 ヶ月 前
I hate it when I make a date with someone to maybe go have coffee or meet up to exchange something, and they cancel on me at the last minute. My boyfriend canceled on me three times in a row.... yeah, that relationship didn’t last.
Kim Shaw
Kim Shaw 2 ヶ月 前
I say ma’am and sir to everyone no matter what age. It is a sign of respect.
Anthony Vulgamore
Anthony Vulgamore 2 ヶ月 前
I'm not southern but I believe all this should be done.
The Creoledoll88
The Creoledoll88 2 ヶ月 前
I moved from Louisiana to South Florida a few years.... These are the rudest ppl I have ever met in life!!! I dearly miss my fellow southerners who know how to genuinely treat ppl how they would like to be treated....😔
SteampunkBelladonna 2 ヶ月 前
Intelligence test - those who address me as Miss Bella are worth talking to.
Doesn't matter
Doesn't matter 2 ヶ月 前
I've tought my kids to do certain things because it's just the right thing to do, NOT to get a thank you or any other kind of praise. If someone wants to respond in a negative way or just not at all,then thats all on them. We choose not to let other peoples rudeness dictate our kindness. You never know what that rude person is going through, instead of getting irritated with them, pray for them :)
Dennis King
Dennis King 2 ヶ月 前
I feel like the left side of that porch has seen more wine than the right. Bless her heart....:]
dan lee
dan lee 2 ヶ月 前
I guess I'm Southerner, unfortunately, I was born and mostly raised in California.
Healthy Disrespect for Authority
I have a distant memory of telling my two year old (at the time) to not talk with food in her mouth.. and then giving her food. She was really chatty
Healthy Disrespect for Authority
I whole heartedly agree with hostess/host gifts... back in my more social days, I used to keep a cabinet of fun stuff I found just for that.
Lori Plumb
Lori Plumb 2 ヶ月 前
I'm a transplant, moved here when I was 12, but still do all on those lists. It's just being considerate of others.
Anastasia Remmes
Anastasia Remmes 2 ヶ月 前
Common courtesy...if someone is pulling out of parking space....stop and let them out.
edp382 2 ヶ月 前
oooh yeah,,,,i always say yes ma'am yes sir,,,,no ma'am no sir,,,,,sir ma'am,,,,,,,regardless of age,,(unless their punks),,,,,,,its just propper when addressed or addressing,,,,i saw a court case where the judge gave the defendant extra time for saying Yeah four times in court very "curt",,,,and she looked at him and had the audasity to get angry and start mumbling under her breathe,,,,,,,bless her heart,,,, maybe setting in jail for an extra thirty days will give her time to ponder her mis--steps,,,,,,anyhow hava Blessed Day and Better Tomorrow
edp382 2 ヶ月 前
you always kiss the cook on the cheek/her hands after a meal and say an extra ThankYou,,,help clear the table and offer to wash or dry,,,,,,,,,,,,if your at a friends/neighbers house for eatz or party Always offer to help with the chores heavy/light and do them with a good heart,,,,,,,,,if you give of a favor you Never Ever expect a return,,,,,,,,and you Always help out a fellow southern'r when he or she us down in any way possible being creative to involve other folk till the friends in need are back on their feet,,,,,,,,,great vid Ladies ThanxYall [>
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